ARE YOU A PART OF THE SOLUTION OR THE PROBLEM?

Editor's Note: Meri said she will no longer write any more posts. She is seriously pissed about this entire nightmare. Please be vocal and tell Meri to stay!!! She is a major backbone of this boycott!

First, thank you to everyone who made comments. I appreciate all of them whether they agree with what I said or not. I respect and welcome freedom of speech and everyone's opinion.


I blogged what I did because I saw something that deeply upset me. I am NOT a hater or a bully and I would do nothing to divide Natalee's family. Everything that I have tried to do is FOR Natalee and her family...ALL members of her family.


I was saddened to learn and PROVE that some posters on Blogs For Natalee have been running around all over the Internet bashing Natalee's mother and making inappropriate remarks. I was sickened to see them posting at BFN and being praised and thanked by Natalee's Step-Mother. I don't know if the Administrator told Robin what was going on and asked her to post a supporting post about those people who have done harm or if she did it of her own volition.


I choose to believe that Robin Holloway believed in The Administrator of that blog and wanted to protect her and the members there. I choose to believe that Robin may not have been aware of some of the things that these people were saying elsewhere and away from that blog.


I HOPE that this was the case.


I HOPE that the Administrator didn't portray those people as friends and therefore cause Robin Holloway to thank the very people who are talking such trash about Natalee's mother. No matter what the real facts are about how that post from Robin happened I am really sad that it did happen and that the family was dragged into a battle that they should have been left out of. I


am sad that the Administrator felt the need to cause them to take sides against Natalee's mother via a very inappropriate post. I feel that if the Administrator had the best interests of the family in mind she would never have allowed those people to post on her blog after hearing what other people had to say about them and seeing what they have said elsewhere.


She was confronted on many occasions and refused to listen or do anything about the problem. As a result of that several people have left that blog. I know this for a fact because I have heard from many of them.


I do not understand her defense of such people and I do not understand how she could praise and applaud those who work for the Aruban Tourist Bureau or who are in league with Julia Renfro who has done so much harm to Natalee's mother and step-father. Don't their feelings count?


BFN seems to be all about one side of Natalee's family and many of the posts are a litany of praise for the leader of that message board. When anyone expresses a contrary opinion they are deleted or ridiculed. It happened to me and I have seen it happen to others.


They claim that they are all about differing opinions and points of view but that is obviously NOT true if you look at the history of the blog and look at what has happened to those who disagree with the small clique of posters who stick together. There is NO room for a divergence of opinion on there unless they approve of it and agree with it.


The place I refer to is supposed to be about Natalee Holloway, yet they don't seem to see or care about the fact that Beth is Natalee's mother and that people who bash her should NEVER be allowed to be a part of any support forum. To drag Robin into that mess was unconscionable and wrong in my opinion and if there was any division being attempted in that family it was caused by the Administrator and her close ties to Robin Holloway and not by my blogs which told the truth about the people I spoke of.


Everyone is free to agree with me or disagree...I wouldn't want it any other way....but to blindly sing the praises of people who are harmful and mean-spirited toward ANY member of Natalee's family is wrong and irresponsible.


I read this morning a thread where the Administrator made yet another little mea culpa speech and her regular followers responded with songs of praise and love. Love and praise for what....allowing bashers to post and deleting those who point that out?


Is that board about the Administrator and her feelings or is it about Natalee Holloway and finding out the truth about what happened to her? Is it about congratulating one another and constantly telling one another how wonderful and loyal they are or is it about Natalee and finding out the truth about her.


The statements that are on that board are NOT exclusive to that place and have also been posted elsewhere on the Internet so I cannot see what good that board is doing other than dividing and conquering people and giving a platform to people who have expressed their TRUE feelings on other sites. Feelings that are nasty and hurtful to Natalee and her mother.


Who cares how wonderful an individual poster is or an Administrator? Who needs so much praise and reinforcement that they constantly post about themselves and their motives? If people really want to help they do so without asking for praise and thanks...they just do it.


The heart has it's reasons and for the life of me I can't figure out what good that so-called, self-proclaimed board "family" is doing to help out in this case. More time is spent on themselves and more focus is placed on their leader than on Natalee. What good is that doing anyone? These are my feelings and my opinion.


Beth has been informed of what I blogged about and she could NOT believe that Robin Holloway made the post that she made. I hope that she learns the truth and that part of that truth is exactly WHY Robin made that post and if she was asked to make it. If she was...something is very wrong with that place and the people who run it and they are NOT thinking of the family of Natalee Holloway, but only of themselves and how they are viewed by their fellow posters.


Somehow, contrary to their constant mantra of "We are all about Natalee", she got lost in the shuffle and they became the focus of their own blog. Frank, Michelle and others who really work hard to do SOMETHING to help don't ask for praise...they just do it. Anyone who does, is not part of the solution, they ARE part of the problem.